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Mistakes Were Made
Carol Tavris · 2007 · 292 pages
Why do people dodge responsibility when things fall apart? Why the parade of public figures unable to own up when they screw up? Why the endless marital quarrels over who is right? Why can we see hypocrisy in others but not in ourselves? Are we all liars? Or do we really believe the stories we tell?
In this terrifically insightful, engaging new book, renowned social psychologists Carol Tavris and Elliot Aronson take a compelling look into how the brain is wired for self-justification. When we make mistakes, we must calm the cognitive dissonance that jars our feelings of self-worth. And so we create fictions that absolve us of responsibility, restoring our belief that we are smart, moral, and right-- a belief that often keeps us on a course that is dumb, immoral, and wrong. Backed by years of research, "Mistakes Were Made (But Not by Me) "offers a fascinating explanation of self-deception--how it works, the harm it can cause, and how we can overcome it. Turn the page, but be advised: You will never be able to shun blame quite so casually again.
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Peter Attia
“Mistakes Were Made, But Not By Me is a bookabout cognitive dissonance, and it’s one of the few books that atthe moment I finished it, I not only reread it but I bought it forabout ten people. I think that the authors do such a great job of is really getting at the psychology ofwhy it is that we are simply not wired to acknowledge mistakeswhen we make them, look for weaknesses in our thinking. And I just think that how do I make sure I go throughlife without becoming too sure of myself? Because on some levels I am sure of myself, but at other levels I have to realize, whatcan I do to make sure I’m not missing something that could allowme to do a better job? And so I think it’s a fantastic book.”↗

Andrew Wilkinson
“There's a great book on it that I highly recommend called Mistakes Were Made (But Not By Me)”↗


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